Birth trauma is a form of PTSD that a lot of mothers tend to experience postpartum. If you have identified yourself as someone who suffers from birth trauma, there is no need to worry. While it can be a frightening condition to have, there are a lot of things that can be done to try and help mitigate it. Consider the following suggestions on what to do if you are experiencing birth trauma.
Go to Therapy
While it is tempting to try and navigate this new horror by yourself, it is not recommended. Instead, consider going to therapy. Therapists are bound by confidentiality laws, so if you are worried about others perceiving you as broken or going and telling their confidants that you are, you have no reason to worry about that where a therapist is involved.
Make sure you find a therapist you connect with before you dive into the meat of the issue. That connection will strengthen over the course of each session, and as long as you are honest with what is going on, your therapist will be able to take your experiences and guide you in the direction of making progress as they work through your trauma with you. Your trauma is real and, like all real illnesses or afflictions, deserves to be properly treated. Depending on the nature of your trauma, your therapist might refer you to a neurologist to get an MRI or CT to see if something is wrong with your vagus nerve, as such an issue is common among people who have birth trauma.
Seek Support From Family and Friends
Therapy is only the first step in your journey to navigate life with birth trauma. The best way to make sure that you are making the therapy work for you is to have a strong support system established before you start your journey, and that support system should ideally be made up of your closest family and friends. However, make sure that those friends and family members are truly supportive of you and that you are comfortable including them in your journey. If something seems off, or you know that a certain person has a history of manipulation or changing their minds at the drop of a hat, it is best to keep them at a distance until you have more energy. The focus needs to be on yourself and your recovery.
Try to Bond With Your Baby as Best You Can
One of the most common things that happen due to birth trauma is that mothers will avoid time spent bonding with their children. If you are having issues with such avoidance, you are not alone. However, bonding with your baby may be one of the things you need to help yourself live with birth trauma. It is not going to be easy by any means, but your baby needs you and you need your baby, as much as you might think that you do not.
Confer with your therapist and make sure that you are ready as you can be to start pursuing a bond with your baby. You might not think you're ready, but there is no need to let your fear hold you back. Your baby will not hurt you, and over time, you might come to find that you are finding just as much comfort in bonding with your baby as much as your baby enjoys being close to you. If you start feeling uncomfortable when you are trying to bond with your baby, do not be afraid to pause, but bear in mind that bonding with your baby is a necessary step if you are to move forward.
Birth trauma is one of the most horrific things that a mother can go through postpartum, and it is not easy to mitigate. Keep these suggestions in mind, and if you feel like you need help, you should never be afraid to reach out.